Because there's a crucial difference between depicting something and making it sexually arousing. My stories include violence, trauma, slurs, and patriarchy, but they don't eroticize abuse or oppression for pleasure.
When you get aroused by something, you're reinforcing neural pathways that associate it with pleasure. The human brain doesn't distinguish between "real" and "fantasy" arousal. It's the same mechanism as addiction: we train ourselves to crave what we've taught ourselves to enjoy. Masturbation to these scenarios IS the conditioning.
This isn't moral panic. Extensive research shows that repeated exposure to certain types of erotic material influences beliefs, expectations, and behaviors.* If you read smut about petplay, you're teaching yourself to find dehumanization pleasurable. If you masturbate to rape fantasies, you're rewiring your brain to associate violation with arousal.
Modern centrist liberal feminism argues that any choice freely made by a woman is feminist by definition, as if individual choices exist outside systems of power. But the popularity of dark romance should raise questions: why do millions of women find the same harmful patterns compelling? What taught us this? These books normalize abuse as love. We can't dismantle systems we're masturbating to.
That's why I write what I do. To offer alternatives that are erotic and exciting but don't condition us to accept our own subordination.
*Selected research on neuroplasticity, sexual conditioning, and media effects
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